THE HOMECOMING DRES'S DILEMMA


My daughter, Maggie, takes over the blog now. It’s about homecoming dresses and she or he, much like most senior high school girls includes a very strong opinion about what they want to put on for stacees dresses.

My daughter, Maggie, takes over the blog now. It’s about homecoming dresses and she or he, much like most senior high school girls includes a very strong opinion about what they want to put on for stacees dresses.

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This year, happily, we found a homecoming dress both of us could agree with. Not an easy task btw… As we were studying the process, or perhaps a better descriptor might be the negotiation, Maggie voiced a distinct opinion about them. I thought her undertaking was a fascinating insight into the POV of the teen, the individual that actually must wear said homecoming dress…

So without further adieu…Here’s Maggie

The Teen’s Point of View

Last year my mom did your blog post on which to wear to homecoming from the mother’s perspective. And while YES, a parents’ perspective is super-duper important, I think the perspective of the teenage girl is simply too. As a senior high school girl in 2019, I can tell you, homecoming could be stressful, particularly when it comes to what you’re wearing. You want to create a statement together with your dress, but nonetheless kind of looks just like your friends. In other words, you want to put on what other people are wearing. That may sound type of weird but most of the time it’s the reality. You want to be unique and yourself, but nonetheless blend in, in the event that makes sense.

Nowadays we search for tight, short dresses because that’s what other people are wearing. We don’t want long and we don’t want flowy, we would like short and tight. Even though I know I should need to be myself and do what’s suitable for me, honestly, I want to easily fit in. We all do.

What Teens Look for in a Homecoming Dress

The fact is that when I search for homecoming dresses I’m searching for something perhaps a tad little risque. When I show my mom these dresses, she just examines me and shakes her head. I know when my father saw me in one of the head-shaking dresses, my mom would need to cover his eyes, and I don’t want that. Finding a dress that’s a contented medium is exactly what it’s about, something you are feeling comfortable in as well as your parents are comfy seeing you in too.

Recently, my mom, dad, and I visited to go HoCo dress shopping. I had seen the cutest black lace dress with lace arms at Haven in Chagrin Falls and I thought my parents might approve of it too. Partly because it had been not super short and since it had sleeves. I type of thought the arms and mid-thigh length might cancel out the tightness factor. And, when I used it on, it had been perfect! I felt good about myself inside it and I wasn’t afraid to come out of the dressing room for my father to see me inside it.

It was an ideal mix. Mostly conservative (by senior high school standards) with long sleeves with no cut-outs or deep, plunging v’s however the length and lace gave it the “sexy” kinda vibe I was dreaming about. This was a compromise dress. We each compromised and we each were happy ultimately.

MY ADVICE…

If I had to provide you with one suggestion when shopping for a homecoming (or prom) dress together with your daughter it’s this… just ask her “would you go out together with your father within this and feel at ease?” Believe me, that question can make her think. And also maybe compromise, which is not necessarily a bad thing. I know that like a teenage girl we're trying to showcase the “assets” that people have very recently gotten and therefore are just becoming accustomed to. In some ways, we’re experimenting and playing dress-up. It’s like whenever we were little and used to put on our mom’s high heels whenever we were in preschool, we were playing grownup. And while we're not quite grown-ups yet, we’re not kids anymore either.

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Basically, we're just attempting to figure it out. Probably the same manner your parents are attempting to figure us out. My mom said there is a song in her day by Meat Loaf titled “2 Out of 3 Ain’t Bad” and I’m convinced that should be the rule when you are looking at parents and kids agreeing on homecoming dresses. Maybe when the kid wants 1. shorts and a pair of. tight and 3. lots of skin showing. The parent should say you are able to pick 2 from 3… either tight and never short or short and never tight. If plenty of skin is showing on the top it must be a little longer. You get the idea, it’s compromising.